Is your guy 'love' worthy?
By Maryann Hammers Throughout my single life, I've dated countless guys because they were fun, kissed almost as many because they were cute and went on to do more with quite a few because we had great chemistry. And if a guy was not only fun, cute and a turn-on, but also loved my pets, cleaned up after himself and told me I looked beautiful even if I was wearing sweats — well, I usually decided I was in love.But it turned out, some of those guys weren't worthy. Why? Because they didn't love me back. Though painfully obvious, it's taken me altogether too long to realize that a guy who doesn't share my deep feelings doesn't deserve them. Now that's my number one requirement. But beyond that essential point, what else makes a man "loveworthy?"
"Everyone is worthy of being loved — just sometimes by somebody else. Somebody horribly desperate," jokes Carmen, a marketing coordinator in San Diego, Calif. "Some guys are for fun, some are convenient, some are stepping stones, some are huge wastes of time. You just weed through until someone sneaks up and knocks you flat — and you knock them flat too. For me, barfing when he calls is a sure sign that I'm at least on the verge of falling in love."
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1. You want to bring him home to meet your parents.
2. Things that usually drive you nuts or gross you out suddenly seem trivial. For example, if he's sitting there unabashedly picking his nose, and you don't want to break up with him right there, that's a pretty good sign you're in love.
3. He's a great friend.
4. There's a big grin on your face whenever you think or talk about him.
5. You can count on him. He's consistent, trustworthy and honest. He keeps promises and commitments.
6. He sticks around while you wait for the other shoe to drop. And while you stall, figuring this is too good to be true and are sure that he'll eventually mess up or turn into a troll, he just keeps getting better.
7. You're covered with hives, sitting in your Aveeno bath, and he asks you in all seriousness to marry him.
8. You've given up your "drama queen" crown. Since you know where you stand with him and are comfortable in the relationship, you don't need it anymore.
9. He makes the relationship a priority.
10. He doesn't run away if the two of you disagree. Rather, he'll be there to talk about it and work through it.
11. He holds your hand in public.
12. Your connection is so strong that you don't even have to ask yourself this question.